incest
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The modern parent is drowning in information. There’s a book for every stage of child development, an “expert” for every problem, and a dozen competing theories on how to raise a child who is happy, resilient, confident, or [insert buzzword here]. The underlying message is clear: You can’t possibly figure this out without them. I’ve…
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The heart is a wild thing. It runs after pleasures, it bows before honors, it clings to security, yet never is it at peace. I have seen souls chase endlessly after one comfort, then another, like a child distracted by every trinket. Yet the heart remains hungry and unsatisfied, for it was not made for…
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Each week we will answer an anonymous message received at BitsnB1218@gmail.com or through DM. There are 60 million survivors of childhood sexual crimes. One in nine don’t report. The real number of victims is staggering but no one wants to talk about it. We will. If you need anonymous advice from Jesus’ girls coming through…
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Many address childhood trauma as if it were the same as not having a prom date for your high school gala. This couldn’t be farther from the truth and adds insult to injury. There was a prophet in the Old Testament named Jeremiah. I love his words about God’s people who were being set up…
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Suicide and death are such a common theme among incest survivors. You know why? It’s all murder, that’s why. I only saw my father a handful of times after that. He had chosen deceit and the battle between us was on. About six months before this illness, I’d dreamt that my father was milling about…
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There’s a lot of talk about forgiveness, and while I believe wholeheartedly in forgiveness, I’m hard-pressed to understand the ability to reconnect to the people that violated my innocence, my trust, and gave me no protection. The way I see it is that to extend my hand to my mother, my father, my brother, or…
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No one tells you healing is lonely. They say it’s brave, beautiful, even empowering. What they don’t say is that it feels like exile. You outgrow dysfunction, and suddenly you’re not invited anymore. You stop gossiping, and conversations get quiet. You set a boundary, and people call you difficult. You say no, and the world…
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I would love to hear from you! Sharing Saturday with you. A Jewel: I love John Eldridge of Wild at Heart ministry. I want to share one of his daily readings with you, “I love feeling happy. Absolutely love it. Who doesn’t? But my pursuit of it has sometimes gotten me into trouble. I’m pretty…
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I would love to hear from you! Sharing Saturday with you. A Jewel: Easter is tomorrow. It means a great deal to me because Father God left his residence to come into ours and meet us where we are. He took our shame, our guilt, our discouragement and lack of understanding and he wrapped it…
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Several of the women recalled lying awake, motionless, waiting for the inevitable – a brother or father coming in to molest them. The Body Keeps the Score, van der Kolk, Chapter 2, Trauma Before Dawn These were my nights. Many of them. And, I survived. How I survived is the thing to be questioned. As…