tell the truth
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Why Am I Running? I have spent much of my life believing that if I simply tried harder, organized better, and moved faster, I could outrun suffering. I treated my days like a battlefield. One more appointment. One more treatment. One more book. One more load of laundry. One more attempt to heal myself, fix…
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I sometimes wonder if the greatest spiritual discipline is not fasting or silence or waking up at 5 a.m. to read Greek words out of a study Bible. I think maybe it’s just staying. Staying married when the house smells like coffee grounds and old arguments. When love stops performing tricks for you. When two…
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Have you looked closely at the intent of those that abuse? I’ve heard people describe them and I don’t believe they are understanding the severity of childhood sexual crimes. Proverbs 2 tells of such a person, “Wisdom will save you from the ways of wicked men, from men (and women) whose words are perverse, who…
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In him and through faith in him we may approach God with freedom and confidence. Ephesians 3:12 That is a very hard concept for me. Approaching my earthly father was miserable. It was a relationship built on maniuplation and lies. Pain and suffering was at the core of my fatherly relationship so how now am…
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Over 35 years ago, I saw a book in my mind’s eye. The book cover had a woman sitting on a cold cement floor in a prison cell with no bed, no toilet and only dim light cascading down on her from a high window that had bars on it. The title of the book…
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Skipping rope as child has its fun and it has the brittle failure that will happen when your foot stops the rope. For every action there is a reaction, right? When children are sexually abused nothing makes sense anymore and I do mean nothing. When your father or mother crosses the barrier of protection and…
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We leave our abusers kicking and screaming. Why is that? Shouldn’t we want to run away as fast as we can? We glorify them in our minds and say the sexual abuse was sustainable – it really wasn’t that bad. If it was family, we take it a step further and go underground so we…
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God gets such a bad wrap for the works of bad people. I don’t get it. God did not crawl into bed with you and rape you. He didn’t hit you and make you succumb to His wishes. He’s gentle and kind. He calls out to you tenderly with mercy and grace. Yet, time and…
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Why do abusers syndicate the love channel for us? These individuals promote a common theme with their victims – “We love you. We’re giving you a secret love that you need. Warmth is with us.” Their lies make many of us return to them time and time again. Do you realize how many victims believe…
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Is it your own story or is it the story that your parents taught you and demanded you tell? I struggle seeing all of my story, I’m not going to lie. I know it’s the truth. I know it happened. And, I struggle with it. I’m not supposed to tell. I am supposed to hide…