Healing Trauma
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Times of reflection are the best way to start a week. Ask yourself this question: “Am I hard on myself? Cracks in concrete are common but often misunderstood. When we see a crack, we automatically assume there’s something wrong. This is not always the case. Some types of cracks are inevitable. Isn’t that true of being…
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The problem with keeping secrets is that they’re alive. We like to think that our secrets can lie quietly in our minds, as inert as dirt, but we’re wrong. Secrets aren’t just our creations…they’re our creatures, beings with wills of their own. They grow. They reproduce, as we form new secrets to support the old…
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To doublethink is mandatory when you are a child who has experienced abuse. Another example of doublethink is thinking on the one hand that you have no hope of escape and on the other hand that it will be better tomorrow. It is, literally, double thinking. Somehow the mind splits so that both realities can…
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Come into my home with me today, join me in my prayer life, and my daily reading. Welcome! A Jewel: Unfettered consistency. I heard the Lord quietly whisper unfettered consistency to me this morning. “What does unfettered mean,” I thought to myself. Unfettered means unrestrained or uninhibited. God himself was telling me that nothing would…
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On the question of fear, ask yourself: Do I live in the fear of what my future holds? Incest leaves a whole so large in the heart of a person seldom do they whisper, “I cannot wait to see what my future holds.” They’d never utter that because hope has usually been robbed from them. Hope…
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On the question of fear, ask yourself: Do I live in the fear of what others think? Fear with a capital “F” stays with survivors of incest. It was a gift given to us at breakfast, served with soup at lunch, and gluttonously given at the dinner table. Fear had to be consumed by us for…
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Introspection — what better way to start a week. I think this is an interesting question. How do we know what secrets are buried in our heart? Is it pain? Is it mayhem? What stirs beneath my actions? What makes me choose one way or another? What is under my fear? These are the secrets…
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I participated in a mental health presentation the other day. The speaker spoke a lot about connection and how it helps thwart anxiety. One of the antidotes was to listen to an audiobook. If you’ve come through trauma, trust me, I lead you through a “captivating emotional journey!” Let me be with you through my…
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Come into my home with me today, join me in my prayer life, and my daily reading. Welcome! A Jewel: God’s love separates. So many religious folks like to believe that unity is the only message in the Kingdom of God. Not so! His love often separates us for protection, for growth, for nourishment and…
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Introspection — what better way to start a week. Question: Do you easily call out the deception in your abuser(s) or do you deny what you see? One of the easiest ways to stay outside of healing and freedom is to deny what you see. As children, if you came through childhood sexual crimes, you…