denial
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Holidays can be deeply challenging for those of us who carry the scars of childhood trauma. The world seems filled with images of joyful families, while our memories may be of pain, neglect, or brokenness. For many, the idea of tradition feels like a painful reminder of what was missing. But the beauty of the…
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Here, in the gauze of denial, a soul softens, losing its edges, its bite, its clarity. Evil sits across the room, legs crossed, whispering sweetly—seduction in its tone. It calls itself necessity, then compromise, then, finally, your closest friend. Oh, but what becomes of the spine when it bends too often? When the first “no”…
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I have always thought that pruning the soul is like cutting away dead branches in the heart’s garden—those twisted limbs, heavy with lies and betrayal, the ones that choke the light, the truth. I once believed in people the way the morning believes in the sun. But when they let me down, when they tore…
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I still get stuck in the belief that my parents weren’t that bad. I was raped before I turned four and my mother was an active participant. But a child has to believe that the person put in charge of taking care of them is good, right? What else can a child believe. So, day…
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On this journey I’ve had to cast the courage to care so many times. I’ve wanted to quit, give up, stay with inappropriate people and just stop caring. The more I cared, the more I had to work at discovering the hidden evils around me. I remember telling Redmond, my counselor of many years, “Can…
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Reflection ~ what a great way to start a week. Christianity to me has meant that when I was too weak to stand, I fell at the feet of Jesus. Faith to me means when I am out of options, and maybe before I’m completely done trying, I let go and give it to God.…
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Oh, reflection, my soul longs for you. Why don’t we talk more about incest in our socieites at large? Trauma that stays with the person a life time and can threaten their very existence. Every nine minutes a child is abused in the US and that number excludes the global problem. We should be talking…
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Here’s to all of you out there committed to healing and dedicated to growth, embracing the daily courage required to shift from self-betrayal to self-acceptance and self-love. Healing is a profound journey, not for the faint-hearted. It demands facing our deepest wounds and vulnerabilities, often unearthed through years of self-protection and denial. It is a…
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Introspection, what better way to start a week. When you live in a home of incest, no piece of you lives free. You can’t talk about your feelings, you cannot discuss the abuse and your emotions must be hidden away from sight. No love in. No love out. No feelings. No discussion. You must live…
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Exposing secrets can tear families apart. But hear me out, it can also bring them closer together. I’ve lost a lot of family members – pretty much all of them aside from my sister and mother. It’s been a long and lonely and painful road but there are so many upsides. It’s freed me up…