Abuse is a coordinated campaign against you to deliberately destroy, damage, and obstruct. The problem is that when all you know is abusive treatment, you don’t see it this way.
The abuser draws you back into their web time and time again. It is certainly a campaign by design.
I cannot tell you how many years I wasted with people who deliberately tried to destroy me. My soul didn’t fight against it much but my mind did. My heart was so entangled in the web of deceit I had a hard time distinguishing signs of abuse.
Since childhood I heard “I love you” from the very people that deliberately tried to destroy me. That design woven in me with the needle of despair kept me stuck. I knew in my heart “love” shouldn’t feel like this, that “love” wouldn’t damage you but I couldn’t see another path. Abuse was the only path I knew.
That is until Jesus came in. He taught me I deserved to be treated with fairness. He spoke tenderly to me and told me he wasn’t mad at me. I always thought I was doing something wrong because if I was doing things right, I wouldn’t have the broken heart of betrayal.
This holiday season I hope my words bring you the courage you need to stand up for yourself. It doesn’t take strong words or anger to say, “You will not be treating me like this anymore.” It just takes breath, reason, courage and control.
I’m praying with you!
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