For the next 12 days, we are returning to posts from the past that have been the most popular with YOU! Here’s our first post as a nod to our readers.
The Lace of Intimacy
I hate intimacy. It’s just like wearing a lace blouse on a cold day. You feel everything!
But healing has brought me into more intimate places. This is not a sexual reference, rather a human one.
Intimacy can be defined as a close familiarity or friendship. I’ve spent most of my life isolating myself and trying not to check into close relationships.
I had a lot of party buddies but most of them did not help my inner healing. My heart stayed out of these friendships and I liked it that way. I didn’t have to feel more than I was forced to feel.
Coming through such a treacherous past, I had deep pain. So much pain that I could not tolerate any more feeling. Connection creates feeling and it was the last thing I really needed.
Love included in that!
After my first divorce, I stayed single and dated men who were very disconnected and wanted no intimacy. I didn’t say, “No sex,” I said, “No intimacy.”
Healing is a continuous journey. One that never ends, I believe.
I no longer live at the address of 1122 No Intimacy Here. I’ve changed my address and welcome close times with people. I always had moments of it here and there, and I’ve had some good friendships, but the truth was that my inner being just couldn’t take any more connection.
I had to learn to stop all the turmoil and clear out the dust mites in my heart before I could allow more in.
Intimacy can still feel like wearing a lace shirt in dead of winter, but I’m more tolerant of it now.
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